Michelle's corner

Well, this is a difficult one to answer as one persons meat is another persons poison. However, my primary kink has always been bondage. Still is, although I'm fairly dormant at the moment due to family circumstances.

I grew up as a teen knowing about the bondage side of my life and in my early twenties I found myself part of a team in the Midlands, running a monthly, "scene," event. That went on for a few years. While I was there, I explored my imagination and wrote some fiction that was published in scene magazines in 1995...

Shortly after that, I wrote my first, "book," in 1996, "Broken Spirits." It was at a time when I was pushing the boundaries of my imagination.

In 1999 I ended up working in Europe for a few years and spent some time in Munich and Frankfurt. That's where I was exposed to some of the heavier playing. If you say it, you'd better damn well mean it. Things are taken literally, so there is little room for any wishy-washy definitions of limits. If you say you are X and you wish to be treated as X, then this is what will happen and if you end up crying about it, then people will not know where they stand, and potentially not want to play with you.

When I returned to the UK, I decided to start a web site in 2002; a free resource web site, the URL is little known and is not really advertised outside the scene. It gets on average, seven unique hits a day and some of the comments I've received over the years are like...

"Thank you for your prompt reply, I didn't expect to hear from you at all, let alone on the same afternoon. I have had a thorough look around you site, and it impresses and intrigues me. I am a Dominant, and have been so since my university days, being introduced to it by a younger girlfriend. Long and detailed story - it horrified me to begin with, because I didn't understand the most fundamental issues - trust and giving."

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"I have just come across your website and I think it is one of the most stirring, well produced and lovely sites I've visited. I so admire your honesty and your story of how you found yourself through bondage. As I read it I felt the same yearning within, a longing to experience something which I know has always been there inside me. You have put it all into words! Thank you for showing me that I am not the only one with such thoughts and needs,"

I served one dominant for about a year before his ex came back in to his life. The whole situation isn't as simple as it sounds but we enjoyed some good times. He did push my limits a bit, psychologically as well as physically!

The second, I served by contract. It was a deeper relationship which ended when cancer took his life some years later.

The third was an enjoyable relationship but distance ultimately got in the way and then, family circumstances dealt the current blow to play time.

But things didn't stop completely until a decision that I made in mid 2015. I had been playing with people I know and enjoying a world of sensation beyond the missionary position with the lights out; and I make no real apology for it. No one has been physically hurt and there are some very close and intense friendships born from it; some which have lasted all of my adult life.

I've also had the privilege to know some of the long term players; people who have been harder, heavier and longer than I ever have a desire to endure; as I know there is a balance and I have a life to live. If I went too deep, then I wouldn't enjoy the freedom to write as I am doing now.

But there is a difference between life and play; different people in different countries, live and play different ways, to different intensities and desire different results. I've played heavy, I've played light, I've played deep and shallow. Hence I know that the web site, and the series, can never hope to even begin to describe all these possibilities. It can only ever open a door of understanding.

Don't forget the F.A.Q. on my author site here.